Girl Drama and the Perils of Middle School

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Today was the last day of school this week – YAY!!!  Thanksgiving vacation at last!  The last few days at school have been annoying and I need a break.  Non-stop girl drama since the beginning of the school year, and I have been getting really tired of it lately.  I try my best to be drama free, but apparently when you’re in middle school, you can’t escape it.  Drama is all around you.  I try not to long for the carefree days of elementary school too much because I know that I can never go back there again.  But sometimes, I just wish……….

Where to start?  I hang out with a group of the same girls that I went to elementary school with.  I find it interesting to see how much they have changed just over the summer.  They are so busy trying to be the leader of the pack, the most popular, one of the cool kids that they have become kinda mean and don’t seem to care about hurting each other’s feelings anymore.  The same girls that I spent the last six years with have turned into people that I don’t even know anymore.  Is that what middle school does to you?  I see so many girls in my group and outside of it too who post inappropriate selfies on Instagram (pictures and posts that they wouldn’t want their parents to see) and brag about what they did on the weekend or who they hung out with (all to make the people who weren’t included feel bad).  They make fun of each other and say hurtful things and they exclude certain girls from activities, while including the rest of the group.  They change “besties” every other day and even fight over boyfriends, trading them back and forth.  Boyfriends?  We’re eleven.  Well, I just turned twelve, but boyfriends?  Really?

My mom calls it the perils of middle school and she says that girls are affected differently at this age than boys.  I don’t feel like I am affected in the same way though.  I hate the way they act.  I would like to see an end to the girl drama, an end to the mean behavior and selfishness, an end to being conceited and self-absorbed, and an end to the “boyfriend” stealing and rude comments about each other.  I usually sit in silence – on the outside of the “inner” circle.  I talk to my mom about how bad it makes me feel.  She encourages me to be brave enough to walk away from it all and to show that I don’t support the way the other girls are acting and treating each other.  I told her that I don’t want to lose my “friends.”  She questioned my use of the word friends and told me that I have to take a stand at some point or I will continue to be miserable.  Then she said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”  Well, I think I’ve been falling for anything, just so that I don’t have to be alone.  But I figured out that I’m alone anyway.  So, wish me luck.  I’m going to be brave and take that stand now.